I have a S&W 640-1 .357 in Stainless. 2.25 inch snubbie, pre-lock.
I carry it all the time in the front pocket. I can spank the bullseye at 50 feet over and over. Felt recoil is very manageable, and quite frankly, pleasant.
If you dont want it for carry, then longer barrel lengths would be beneficial.
It would be tough for you to go wrong with an older Smith. They tend to hold up better in re-sale in my opinion also.